Where Love Lies, Fear Has No Place

Where Love Lies, Fear Has No Place.

The concept of fear and love have been on my mind A LOT lately.

In our last chat It Is What It Is: The Art of Letting Go we talked about grief, loss, and the process of letting go.  I shared about my challenges in moving through grief of the loss of my grandmother.  It continues to be a process just as life always is.

But just as life would have it…I have been hit with another tsunami.  This time it’s a peak versus a valley.  I made the leap into the abyss and rented my own office space in Harvard Square!!!! Your Whole Healing has moved to 1158 Massachusetts Avenue, Cambridge MA just across the street from Haaaaavad Yaaaad!  (That’s Harvard Yard in my best and strongest Boston accent:)


Ain’t it cute????!!!!

Wow just saying that makes it all so official.  It makes the hairs on the back ofmy neck stand up in a good way!

For those of you who know me, you know this has been a long time coming.  I have wanted my business to be in the heart of Cambridge for quite some time but I never knew exact HOW it would happen.

Every single limiting belief that could be strung into a horror story in my mind was blocking the way to listening to my heart.

“I can’t afford it.”  “It’s WAY too expensive in the city to rent full time office space.”  “How would I ever be able to make this work.”  Oh the stories we tell ourselves.  Frightening.  Just frightening.  Things we would NEVER tell people we loved. The energy that fear takes up makes it just impossible to do anything but curl up in a ball with your blankie and cry.

I was telling myself what I always told myself….that somehow that type of happiness was for people who had the privilege to choose their happiness. It was simply not in the cards that I could reach that level of happiness; that I could ever choose freedom in that kind of BIG way.

After the loss of my grandmother, I knew something had to change.  It came into complete clarity what the change would be.

A year ago almost to the date of my grandmother’s passing, a close friend passed away at the tender age of 60.  I am not sure if you remember us chatting about it in our discussion  Last Word.  But after her death, it became very clear to me that life is all about


Yes, the whole reason we are here is to love and to be loved.

The passing of my grandmother brought this back into complete clarity.

At the end, all of what we tend to focus on, all those limiting beliefs, mean nothing.  What we do for a living, the bills we have paid or need to pay, the conflicts all of it means NOTHING,  The only thing that matters is


So if life is about love then that would mean that whatever choice I would make would need to be line with love.  Where love lies, fear has no place.  Let me say that again and louder



Limiting beliefs are all born from fear.  Most of the time they have no basis in reality; only the warped sense of reality that lives in your head.

All those lies I was telling myself about what I could or couldn’t expect for myself were EXHAUSTING.  They sucked the life out of me.  They made everything more difficult; most of all getting up in the morning.  There was no love there.  No love for myself or my dreams.  It was like I was operating out of this fantasy world that I could eat junk food and still be healthy.

Once I let go of the fear and just claimed what I wanted, possibilities made themselves seen.  The perfect place in many ways popped up with the perfect address at just the right time.  It showed up because I was ready to live my life in line with love.



It really doesn’t.

And the opposite is just as true.



I would be lying if I said that I haven’t been dealing with waves of panic at times for having leapt off the rocks into the abyss but I can tell you this….

When I walked out of that office into the cold fresh air last Wednesday after viewing it, I felt more alive than I had felt in a VERY, VERY long time.  I felt the kind of alive you can only feel when you are in LOVE.

I don’t know the recipe for living life totalle embracing the heart all the time.  I can’t hashtag FEARLESS on this one.  I am more likely a person who is free spirited but havne’t allowed myself to fully embrace it for many reasons I won’t list here.  What I can tell you is that when I do live from fully embracing my heart, nothing and I mean NOTHING ever really goes wrong.  It may not be an easy ride becuase it’s not necessarily cautious, but it Is exciting, fun and a lot more liberating than following my fear.

If life is all about love in the end, then we should probably be making the best of it that we can while we have the gift of being here.  IF we can only begin to keep this life lesson in mind, them we may find that the BIG life decisions become a lot easier over time.  It comes down to LOVE.




So when yo are afraid, you need to take a flying leap off a cliff and remember what a gift it is to be alive!


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  1. Kira Kowalchuk on February 7, 2017 at 5:11 am

    Thank you. This is exactly what I needed to read, right this moment… I believe this perspective is the answer to a repeated prayer… “Help me. Show me. Thank You.”

    • admin on February 10, 2017 at 9:14 pm

      Aw I am so happy to hear that. Yes it is just like the prayer you mentioned. And in my moments where I am not “all hashtag fearless” I am reminded that all I have to do is breathe, settle and ask for guidance. Best wishes your way:)

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